Distressing news can reach children and youth quickly—through TV, social media, or conversations at school. While staying informed has value, repeated exposure to upsetting stories can increase stress for people of all ages. Understanding how to engage with difficult news, and how to talk about it together, can help create a greater sense of safety and connection.
Start with yourself
Before checking in with a child or youth, pause to check in with yourself. Caregivers who are overwhelmed often find it harder to support others—“put your own mask on first” applies here too. Reflect on what you’re feeling and what support you might need. When adults are calm and regulated, children are more likely to feel safe. This is the foundation of co‑regulation, where your steady presence helps guide a young person’s response.
Limit exposure and keep routines
When upsetting news breaks, it’s tempting to watch constantly or scroll for updates. But ongoing exposure can heighten distress, especially for children. Turning off the news—particularly during meals or family time—can reduce that impact.
Everyone benefits from time to reset. People find calm in different ways—taking a walk, spending time outdoors, listening to music, or connecting with a trusted person. Even a five‑minute break can help.
Routines provide structure and predictability when the world feels uncertain. Regular meals, bedtime, school, and shared activities help signal safety to the brain.
Expect strong reactions at first
It’s normal for children and youth to feel most upset immediately after hearing about a tragic event. Over time, reactions typically lessen. If distress persists, if they repeat the same questions, or if they express ongoing fear or difficulty returning to daily activities, additional support may be needed.
Start by asking what they know
When a young person brings up difficult news, begin by asking what they’ve heard. This helps correct misunderstandings and allows you to respond to their actual concerns. Offer information that is factual, calm, and appropriate for their developmental level. If you don’t know an answer, it’s okay to say, “I’m not sure, but we can find out together.” Focus on what you can do, rather than on things outside your control.
Provide context
Younger children may not understand where events are happening or whether they are at risk. If an event occurred far away, looking at a globe or map can help them visualize distance. For older youth, encourage reading or watching longer, more complete news pieces rather than relying only on short clips or headlines, which often lack nuance.
Focus on connection and safety
Strong, caring relationships are the most important buffer during stressful times. Make space for conversations and emotions—some children will talk a lot, while others process through play, drawing, or quiet time together. Continuing everyday routines reinforces stability.
Notice helpers and meaningful action
In difficult moments, pointing out the helpers—first responders, community members, organizations—can offer reassurance.
Some children and youth may want to help themselves, whether by making cards, joining a community event, or participating in a fundraiser. Taking action can support a sense of agency and purpose.
When extra support is needed
If distress continues over time or begins to interfere with sleep, eating, mood, or concentration, reaching out for professional support can make a difference. You don’t have to navigate this alone.
If you or someone you care for is impacted, please reach out for help.
- Contact our Central Referral Line at 1-855-922-1122. No doctor referral is required.
- You can also book an appointment at prebooking.nshealth.ca.
- In the event of an emergency, go to your nearest Emergency Department or call 911.
- Those experiencing a mental health crisis can contact the Provincial Mental Health and Addictions Crisis Line at 1-888-429-8167, available 24/7.
- You can also contact Kids Help Phone at 1-800-668-6868 or by texting CONNECT to 686868.